How To Not Enjoy Your Achievements

So, you just achieved something you wanted to achieve and you feel happy about it, right?


Then you are probably following these 4 simple steps that will prevent you from enjoying your achievements…


Step 1: Focus on the negative


If you got 99% in that exam, focus your attention entirely on the 1% you didn’t get.


Step 2: Ignore the positives


Be sure to attribute your success to anyone or anything other than yourself. You could blame your success on the fact that it was too easy, that anyone could have done it, or frame it in a way that it wasn’t really your effort but someone else’s that made it a success.


Step 3: Move your goalposts


This is a way of acknowledging you succeeded in your goal but still maintaining the idea that it wasn’t good enough.
If you ran 5K, move your goalposts immediately to 10K and focus on how you haven’t achieved that.


Step 4: Compare yourself


The crucial element of this is to compare yourself against people who you think have achieved more and to forget all of the context surrounding their success.

Never mind that they have been doing it for longer than you or had more help than you or any advantages they may have had. It is also important here to focus on only the positives of their success and ignore any negatives.

Alternatively, you could compare yourself against a time you think you did better than you have now, but again, remembering to ignore the context.


If you are currently enjoying your achievements and want to join the many perfectionists who aren’t, just follow these 4 straightforward steps and you will be miserable in your achievements in no time!


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I am a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist and EMDR therapist, mum of 2 awesome children and founder of Lemon Squeezy Wellbeing! I offer wellbeing workshops and guided relaxation sessions to workplaces in Bradford, Calderdale and Kirklees.

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