Are You Feeling Comfortable?

Here at Lemon Squeezy Wellbeing I want you to feel comfortable. Wellbeing is the aim of the game, after all.

Comfort is a funny thing though and lately I got to thinking about what it really means to be comfortable.

In therapy, we often talk about getting out of comfort zones.

On a daily basis, I encourage people to step outside of their comfort zones so that they can learn something new about themselves, other people or about how they view the world.

All from the safety of my own comfort zone!

Don’t get me wrong, I have stepped outside my comfort zone plenty of times before.

But actually for most of the time I live well within my comfort zone, as do many of us.

Of course there is nothing inherently wrong with this as long as your comfort zone is not restricting you or causing you any particular problems.

There is something to be said about being content and grateful but maybe there is a fine distinction between comfort and stagnation.

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The difficulty is that growth, change, or just starting something new are not going to feel comfortable.

They just aren’t!

Discomfort and uncertainty are best buddies!

I push my clients to get out of their comfort zones so that they learn something important to help them in their recovery. Perhaps it is only when we are not so comfortable that we learn the most important lessons.

Comfort is in doing what we already know.

Comfort lives in the familiar and predictable.

Comfort likes you to stay exactly the same.

That is not to say that everyone should all be participating in extreme sports or even that we need to do something far outside our comfort zones for it to be worthwhile.

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Often it is the small step we take to give our opinion where we might otherwise have remained silent. The small risk we take to make a new connection or rekindle an old one. Risking failure at something, no matter how small.

It could be speaking up in the team meeting, it could be busting some moves on the dance-floor or working on your self-improvement.

It could basically be anything that feels a bit scary.

Here is my confession now – as I write this Lemon Squeezy Wellbeing is just an idea. It does not yet exist.

I have this business aspiration and a desire to carve out something new but it is a bloody scary prospect and I fear that nobody will want it, people won’t be willing to hire me, people will think I am stupid for trying when I already have a rewarding, safe and comfortable job (and many more fears and worries).

So, if you are reading this you can be sure that I am practising what I preach and I have stepped out of my own comfort zone to create my business.

The good news is that our comfort zones are adaptable and what is scary now will not be scary in time.

We all remember doing things like learning to drive or starting a new job which felt terrifying at first and now feel – well – comfortable.

Comfort is great. Comfort is lovely. Discomfort can be awesome too if we do it right!

 

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I am a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist and EMDR therapist, mum of 2 awesome children and founder of Lemon Squeezy Wellbeing! I offer wellbeing workshops and guided relaxation sessions to workplaces in Bradford, Calderdale and Kirklees.

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